The Gift of Wounding: Finding Hope and Heart in Challenging Circumstances

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Title The Gift of Wounding: Finding Hope and Heart in Challenging Circumstances
Publication Type Book
Pub Year 1999
Authors Auw, A.
Publisher Aslan Publishing
Keywords acceptance, balance, criticism
Notes balance"Balance is the key to truth rather than one rigid position or judgement. Balance can be experienced only after examining many different sides of an issue, and measuring their worth and integrity. We begin that process by recognizing from the outset that there are other sides and perceptions and that we want to learn from these, as well as from our own knowledge and experience." (p. 48) criticism"Eric Berne may offer us a clue toward the elimination of our blindness. In his famous book, Games People Play, he describes a type of person who has little insight into himself, who is rather insecure, who seeks love but fears rejection. Not able to accept his own faults, he forms a practice of noticing the faults and failings of others.

Berne calls this negative preoccupation, 'looking for the blemish.' Not only have we experienced times when this has been our own way of reacting, we have met men and women who seem to be absorbed in their readiness to judge and be critical of others.

This characteristic is one of the most destructive in personal and professional relationships." (p. 117)

acceptance"These examples illustrate a truth we all too often forget. Miracles of healing are not limited to the body, but touch the soul and renew the spirit of a person. We feel the love that heals and brings us to new life when we experience love by someone who: accepts us unconditionally; walks with us when our pace is slow; inspires us when we are disheartened; and supports and encourages us with affection and laughter. It is a love that sees our weakness and even our ugliness and accepts us 'as is,' looking beyond those qualities to the inner heart and soul, and gracing these with understanding and compassion." (p. 123)
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