Eliot, G.
(1908).
The complete works of George Eliot....
"Perhaps here lay the secret of the hardness he had accused himself of; he had too little fellow-feeling with the weakness that errs in spite of foreseen consequences. Without this fellow-feeling, how are we to get enough patience and charity towards our stumbling, falling companions in the long and changeful journey? And there is but one way in which a strong, determined soul can learn it—by getting his heart-strings bound round the weak and erring, so that he must share not only the outward consequence of their error, but their inward suffering." (p. 309)
Eliot, R. S., Breo D. L., & Debakey M. E.
(1989).
Is It Worth Dying For?.
"In America, people are identified by what they do, to the point that it often seems they are their work—in the eyes of others and even in their own eyes. It's no accident that we introduce ourselves by telling what we do for a living. That's why losing a job, being out of the job market for a long time, having serious conflict at work, or feeling torn between work and home can threaten much more than a source of income. These job stresses can undermine one's sense of personal worth and identity." (p. 209)
Ellis, A., & Lange A.
(1994).
How to Keep People From Pushing Your Buttons.
"Sometimes we get terribly bent out of shape when someone treats us insensitively, manipulates us, takes advantage, or is downright unfair. Therefore, we are not suggesting that if you are treated unfairly, you roll over and say 'Hit me again, baby. Beat me to a pulp' or 'Well—ha, ha—nobody's perfect. Maybe they didn't mean it.' You can still decide to do everything possible to redress injustices and unfairness, whether they be personal or social, without overrreacting and becoming part of the problem." (p. 72)